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纪念我的外公外婆

转载一篇E文,愿我亲爱的外公外婆在另一个世界里继续幸福快乐的生活……

Swans Mate for Life–Hal Torrance

    The end of my sophomore year was approaching. Mom called me at the dorm one muggy evening during the last week of May. My summer break would be spent with grandma and grandpa, helping out around their farm. The arrangement made good sense to all the family. I wasn’t fully convinced of that myself but figured it was just one summer. Next year would be my little brother’s turn.
    I packed my car after my last exam and said my good-byes until the fall. My friends would keep until then. Most of them were going home for the summer any-way.
    The farm was about a three-hour drive from school. My grandparents were both in their seventies, and I knew they really needed the help around the farm. Getting in the hay would be something grandpa couldn’t do by himself. He also needed help with repairs to the barns and a host of other chores.
    I arrived late that afternoon. Grandma had fixed more food than the three of us could possibly eat. She doted over me entirely too much. I figured all the attention would taper off once she got used to having me around, but it didn’t. Grandpa wanted to bring me up to date on literally everything. By the time I settled in for bed that night, I’d decided things would be okay. After all, it was just for one summer.
    The next morning, Grandpa fixed breakfast for the two of us. He told me Grandma had tired herself out yesterday and was going to rest in bed a little longer. I made a mental note to myself to not ask her to do things for me while I was there. I was there to help, not be a burden.
    Grandpa surprised me that morning. Once we were out of the house, he seemed more in his own element. The farm was his domain. Despite his age, there was confidence in the way he moved about the place. He didn’t seem like the same person who had fallen asleep last night on the couch before the six o’clock news was finished. As we walked the pastures getting a close-up look at the livestock, Grandpa seemed to know each cow. And there were nearly two hundred of them!
    We didn’t do much real work that first day, but I gained a sense of appreciation for what Grandpa had done all those years before I was even born. He wasn’t an educated man, but he had raised and provided for four children on this farm. I was impressed by that.
    Weeks passed. By June we had already baled one cutting of hay and gotten it safely into the barn. I gradually settled into a routine of daily work with Grandpa. He had a mental schedule of things that needed doing, and we worked on part of it each day. In the evenings I usually read or talked with Grandma. She never grew tired of hearing about college or anything I was involved in. She told me stories about her childhood, family and the early years after she and Grandpa had married.
    Weeks passed. By June we had already baled one cutting of hay and gotten it safely into the barn. I gradually settled into a routine of daily work with Grandpa. He had a mental schedule of things that needed doing, and we worked on part of it each day. In the evenings I usually read or talked with Grandma. She never grew tired of hearing about college or anything I was involved in. She told me stories about her childhood, family and the early years after she and Grandpa had married.
    The last Saturday in June, Grandpa suggested we go fishing, since we were caught up on everything. The pond was in a low pasture near the woods. Years before, Grandpa had stocked it with fish. We drove the pickup to the pond that day, looking over the livestock as we went. We hadn’t expected what we saw when we got to the pond that morning: One of the swans was dead. Grandpa had given the pair of swans to Grandma on their fiftieth anniversary. "Why don’t we see about buying another one," I suggested, hoping the situation could somehow be righted. Grandpa thought for a few moments before answering.
    He finally said, "no… it’s not that easy, Bruce. You see, swans mate for life." He raised his finger to point, holding the fishing pole in his other hand. "There’s nothing we can do for the one that’s left. He has to work it out for himself."
    We caught enough fish that morning for lunch. On the way back to the house, Grandpa asked me not to tell Grandma about the swan. She didn’t get down to the pond much anymore, and there was no sense in her knowing about it right away.
    A few days later, we drove by the pond while doing our morning check on the cows. We found the other swan lying near the same spot we had found the first one. It, too, was dead.
    The month of July started with me and Grandpa putting up a new stretch of fence. Then July 12 came. That was the day Grandma passed away. I’d overslept that morning. Grandpa had not knocked on my door, either. It was nearly eight o’clock by the time I could hurriedly dress myself and get down to the kitchen. I saw Dr. Morgan sitting at the kitchen table. He was a neighbor of my grandparents’ age, long since retired. He’d come to the house several times before on social calls. I immediately knew something was wrong. This morning, his tattered old black bag was by his feet, and my grandfather was obviously shaken. Grandma had died suddenly that morning of a stroke. By the afternoon, my parents were there. The old house was soon crowded with relatives and Grandpa’s friends.
    The funeral was held the next day. Grandpa had insisted on having it as soon as possible. On the second day after the funeral, Grandpa announced at the breakfast table, "This is a working farm. We have a lot of things to do. The rest of you should get back to your own lives." Most of the family had already left, but this was Grandpa’s way of telling the rest it was time for them to go home. My parents were the last to leave after lunch.
    Grandpa was not a man who could outwardly express his grief around others, and we all worried about him. There had been talk of his giving up the farm. My parents thought he was too old to live out there alone. He wouldn’t hear of it, though. I was proud of the way the old man had stood his ground. The rest of the summer flowed by. We stayed busy working. I thought there was something different about Grandpa but couldn’t quite put my finger on it. I started to wonder if he would be better off living with someone after all, but I knew he could not leave the farm.
    September was nearing, and part of me did not want to leave. I thought of skipping the fall semester and staying around a few more months. When I mentioned it, grandpa quickly told me that my place was back at college.
    The day finally came for me to pack my car and leave. I shook his hand and chanced a hug. As I drove down the driveway, I saw him in the rearview mirror. He waved to me and then walked to the pasture gate to start the morning livestock check. That’s how I like to remember him.
    Mom called me at school on a blustery October day to tell me Grandpa had died. A neighbor had stopped by that morning for coffee and found him in the kitchen. He died of a stroke, same as Grandma. At that moment, I understood what he’d clumsily tried to explain to me about the swan on that morning we fished together by the pond.

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七种方法让你舒适的睡到自然醒(转载)

如果你总是快要迟到了,才费力地起床,一整天无精打采、哈欠连连。总想早睡早起,而改变却是困难的。你需要的是尽快设定起床的仪式,这些仪式将能帮助你不用调闹钟,也能愉悦地睁开眼睛。想想看,每天起床的时间是一天的开始,如果能快乐地起床,一天必能心情舒畅。这里有7种起床仪式,不妨试试看。

1、定时
你一定听过每天定时上床睡觉非常重要,如果你就是做不到,试试看每天定时起床,不消6个星期,实际的睡眠节奏就会与你的生理节奏相符,“规律对设定生理时钟非常重要,”美国康乃尔大学心理系教授马思认为。
所以也别回去睡回笼觉,这样会让生理节奏更混乱,一旦睁开眼,不要犹豫就起床吧。
就算周末也得保持这样的规律。如果你每逢周末就通宵达旦,隔日再睡到中午,马上你就会知道痛苦,星期一又要哀声连连地起床。
马思教授建议,就算周末熬夜,还是要在固定时间起床,中午睡个小午觉补眠,不过这种事还是愈少愈好。

2、阳光
如果早起对你而言,是不可能的任务,那就让阳光来帮助你。因为那些全光谱的阳光可以调节血清素(serotonin)和褪黑激素在血液中的浓度。当受到光线照射,血清素会使身体的代谢加快,当天晚上就会早点想睡,隔天也就会早点起床。
如果没办法一早起床就去徜徉在阳光下,也可以拉开窗帘,让阳光照进来,或是准备一盏明灯,闹钟一响就打开。坚持下去,有一天你会发现,在闹钟响起前你就精神奕奕地起床。

3、声音
如果您对这篇文章感兴趣,相信你会对PSYTOPIC同样感兴趣,网址是Psytopic.com ,这次点击不会浪费您的时间。这是Psytopic的指纹密码:aHR0cDovL3d3dy5wc3l0b3BpYy5jb20v,您可以凭这个指纹在 google搜索到我们的网站。有没有发现你很容易随手按掉伴随多年的闹钟,因为大脑习惯忽视熟悉的声音,因此,可以准备两、三个闹钟轮流着用,或者浪漫一点用音乐叫醒你,因为音乐会促进脑中氧气与血液的流动,让身体也想律动起来。
听什么音乐好?《活力充沛24小时》的作者南西.曼森建议,如果想提振元气,可以选类似莫扎特小提琴协奏曲的音乐;想要一早就精力充沛,可以选舞曲

4、深呼吸
起床后,深呼吸可以让身体踏出舒畅的一天。先缓缓地吸气,仿佛吸至头顶,再将所有的气吐出来,停两秒钟后,再做一次,可以让身体充满早晨新鲜的空气,一天也容易神采奕奕。

5、水
一起床后,马上就去找水喝,会让身体知道新的一天要开始了。而且人类在睡眠时间会发汗约一杯水的量,若前一晚喝了酒,更会让身体如同置身沙漠一般,所以先喝水,然后进厕所将老废的物质排出,会让身体很舒服。

6、香味
香味也会刺激脑部,提高知觉机能,赶走睡意和疲劳。所以有人一早煮咖啡,用咖啡香叫醒自己。如果你的阳台上种有香草植物,也可以在洗脸台上放满水后,摘一片薄荷浸泡水中,薄荷有促进血液循环的效果,此举也有益于皮肤。

7、甜味
一早起床总觉得晕头转向,因为经过一夜的消化,此时脑中毫无营养,脑部的能量来源就是葡萄糖,这时马上补充含有甜味的食物,如香蕉、苹果,马上会有效果。
试试看,美妙的清晨正在等着你。

本文转载自:http://www.moorburn.com/why-1899.html

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你幸福吗?(转载)

本文转载自某种金属——
原文地址:http://hy2010.spaces.live.com/Blog/cns!62326DA238690D3!151.entry

在包头出差途中,同事问整天忙碌工作觉得幸福吗?是以前快乐还是现在快乐呢?我没有回答。

慢慢回想,二十年前,肯定是快乐的,那时候是个懵懂少年,整天只知道玩耍,无忧无虑;十年前,肯定也是比较快乐的,那时候来北京也不久,也算刚接触家乡外面的世界,北京对我来说一切还都比较新鲜,周围的人和风景都是值得关注和探寻的。现在呢,有许多的现实摆在面前,需要努力争取,对一切都没有那种好奇,对陌生的人基本不会搭理,对陌生的城市也都懒得去了解欣赏当地的风情。

虽然北京的树和草都绿了,内蒙到处还基本是一片灰色。到了包头,去的是一个老国企,也就在工厂逛逛,懒得动。在这里还算是学到不少东西,同时也实际了解到国企的工作难做,里面的人需要天天琢磨周围的人,忙于算计,活得不轻松。

怎么样的算幸福呢?临走的时候,在去机场的路上,望着车外波光粼粼的湖面一片茫然。

“这就是当年包头空难出事的南海湖”,司机冷不丁说了一句。这让本来就不喜欢坐飞机的我有点小小的紧张,呵呵。当时出事的人多不幸,在忙碌奔波的路上……

辗转又去了东北,今天坐火车回京了,买到当天的D字头车还算不错。其实这还是第一次坐和谐号,至少不会感觉太沉闷,事先买了读者之类的杂志一路上看。其实已经多年没怎么翻过《读者》,不过这次翻到“我奋斗了18年不是为了和你一起喝咖啡”这篇文章,确实让我大大感慨。看了它,从乡村奋斗到京城的人,是不是都会长吁短叹一番呢?

你幸福吗?

坐在飞驰的列车上,突然想到教书一辈子退休的舅舅。过年回家的时候,精神很好。他说去年出去游玩了一趟,也坐了飞机,挺满足的,就差没有坐一下电视上说得高速列车了,以后要坐一次就啥也不想了,在家带带孙子,种点田。现在春暖花开的时候,应该在家忙活着春耕吧。春天里的家乡给我的记忆都是美好的,田野里放眼望去,一片片都是盖秧的白色薄膜棚,很壮观。春雨贵于油,雨后到处都格外清新,粉红的桃花在绿叶的映衬下娇艳欲滴,比北方看到的满树几乎看不到绿叶子只有浅红色或者白色的桃花要好看多了。农历3月3的时候,是传统的鬼节,家家都做菜粑吃,青菜和面做的,里面包肉,非常好吃。每年妈妈都打电话问北京有没有菜粑吃,我都说没有,也不想吃,其实上我很想吃,可是自从上大学以后,就再也没有尝到家乡的这种美味,都整整十一年了…….

岁月流逝,转眼就快到30了,愈发感慨生活是越转越快,不留下一丝痕迹。工作,奋斗,也许以后我会怎样怎样,那又能真正给自己带来多少内心的快乐呢。我会感觉到这样的生活幸福吗?

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